The anus and the lower part of the rectum hold very little fecal material in them, so anal play is not nearly as messy as everyone believes. That way you won’t have to worry, and will be more comfortable throughout. You’ll know there won’t be any fecal mess which is a scary, embarrassing thought. You can also use an enema or anal douche about a half hour before anal sex, to clean out the lower bowel areas. I’d also recommend laying out a towel to avoid any messes because accidents can happen!
Before diving in, you should start with some ‘butt play’. Have your partner put a generous amount of lube onto their finger and press it against the entrance of your anus and rub gently.
Masturbation is always a good idea when trying new sexual things because you can learn what you like and what you don’t
Next, they should slowly push their finger in. This whole process starts off very slow. The receiver should relax the sphincter muscle and most importantly, not forget to breathe! Add more lubricant throughout as needed. Slowly taking the finger in and out will “loosen” it up and make it easier to enter later on. If the idea of inserting a finger into your anus makes either of you a bit squeamish, try using finger condoms or even a regular condom. It’ll take time for your body to get fully ready for the insertion of such a large object. It can take several attempts with fingers and toys before the real thing. Remember, this process takes time and your comfort is the most important, so take it slow – your partner should understand!
If you’re feeling nervous about trying anal sex with a partner, then you can test it out on your own before doing it together. My comfort level with my partner allowed me to jump right into partner play, but not everyone is lucky enough to have that. There are tons of sex toys which are specifically designed for anal play, which is a great way to start. Just be careful you don’t get anything too crazy, textured, or big. Stick with beginners toys. I’d recommend something like Tantus’s Flirt Butt Plug.
If you’re having a glass of wine to relax, be careful not to drink so much that you can’t listen to what your body is telling you. This is especially important during anal sex, where feeling pain could be a signal that something is wrong. Once you’re comfortable, beginning foreplay should start the same as any other sexual encounter. Have your partner stimulate you and get you aroused before progressing into anal play. Apply lube to both your anus and your partner’s finger. Gently massage the anus before putting any pressure inward, then when you’re ready, your chicas escort Kansas City partner will slowly start to insert it. Slowly continue the process fingering her and ensure the whole area is fully lubricated.
Once you’ve got the basics covered, you may still be left wondering, “What position should I try that won’t end up being, LITERALLY, a pain in the ass?!” Some positions just aren’t as fun for anal, and you may find that some are suddenly uncomfortable or awkward due to the slight change in angle and anatomy. If you’re just starting out and don’t know where to begin, here are five of the simplest anal sex positions to try.
Spooning is great for anal because it’s uber comfortable for both partners. It also has the added benefit of allowing your guy easy access to your breasts, clit, and vagina for added stimulation, which is great for women who do not orgasm from anal sex alone.